What You Say…

…says a lot about you.

Social Media.
Those wonderful things that help us connect to the people we never should re-connect with (or have connected with in the first place).

You learn a LOT about your friends via social media, maybe things you wouldn’t have other wise (or at least not so bluntly). Sometimes, they are things you might not want to know about the way your friends think.
Somethings have the power to really change your opinion.

So, there’s this photo making the rounds in the social media circles of an expensive car that has been vandalized with a graphic image a male body part.

So a friend posts this, someone I have always thought to be open-minded and see multiple sides of things, and the post and replies got nasty. I have to say, they altered my opinion of what I thought I knew of the person. The comments made regarding this act that this person made cast them in a light of bitterness and jealousy in my eyes.

There were comments about the anatomy of the driver (assuming, of course, it was a male who was not generously endowed). Even the linked-to article about the vandalism crossed out the “or her” part of the phrase “him or her” in reference to the owner, who remains unknown.

What is the sense that the owner deserves this? Why, why does anyone deserve this? Because they have a car that you could never afford? Because it’s something nice you don’t have – so of course it should be laughed at and abused?
And what’s the thought behind that? “Too bad for them, they can obviously afford it”?

Um, no. That’s not really how it works.
The thing is, that person has insurance – you can bank on that. They will report that and it will get paid for, with what is probably a rather small deductible (I know mine is). All this will do is hurt the people laughing at it; everyone who is insured under that insurance is going to pay for this car’s vandalism claim – vandalism claims in an area raise everyone’s cost to insure in that area (and the car was parked in a downtown area! They might not even be in the area the owner lives in!). SO YES, we should all be angry about this sort of thing, because ultimately, it effects us all.
In many ways…

IF it is *ok* to abuse this person and their property because they are richer than you, where does that line of thinking end? What happens next? The people with trucks, SUVs or what if someone doesn’t like the color of your car? IS it ok then? Is it still ok when it becomes personal?

Fact is, it simply isn’t ok to vandalize someone’s personal property because of… what ever reason. It just isn’t ok. That’s not how civilized adults live and interact.
We aren’t supposed to glorify criminal acts (and above all, this is a criminal act).
You can’t pick and choose what is criminal – and if this was not such a nice, high end car, if it were just an average car this happened to, or a lower end “economical” car, there would likely be outcry in the other direction and I am SURE there would some crowd-funding thing to raise money for the “poor person” it happened to.

Unless the person painted this on the car their self (which I doubt), the owner of the car that was vandalized is a victim of a crime. Why is it ok to make fun of and “victim shame” certain victims, but not others???

Maybe some people need to stop having a collective “us against them” attitude that some of society has seemed to developed against everyone who doesn’t think exactly like them.

One of the comments on the original linked-to article speaks of the person who did the vandalism being bitter and “trying to get schadenfreude” on someone living a better life than them. Yes, I can agree with that statement because that’s pretty much what it is. However, the response to that comment? All the people who think this is funny and acceptable attacked that comment and the person who wrote it. That’s really sad. REALLY REALLY SAD. Pathetic, really.

The kindness and compassion SHOULD be toward the person who was the victim of the crime, not the criminal who perpetrated it. It seems collectively and largely backwards in this case and the only justification I can see for that is a perceived tax bracket.

For the record, the car in question was a Bugatti Veyron. I don’t have a penis, I am not compensating for anything (as is the assumption with the owner of the car) and I wouldn’t turn that car down if the realistic opportunity for ownership presented itself. Women like nice and fast cars too! So what would be the justification to randomly do that if it were my car? Except to make sexist and mean spirited, unfounded assumptions clearly based in jealousy and acted upon criminally.

The act and the response say far more about the person who did this and the people with such cavalier opinions than it does about the car’s owner.
Even if the owner is a *he* who happens is the biggest jerk on the planet, with the smallest anatomy and this was perpetrated by someone who felt these things to be true of the owner… still says more about the vandal (and their “supporters”) than it does of the car’s owner.

It isn’t cute to jump on the bandwagon of making fun of this person’s misfortune, it isn’t cool… we are supposed to be BETTER – that’s our job in making the planet a nicer place. That means rejecting the herd mentality and standing up for what’s right – it may be funny to insinuate something about someone you don’t know because the crowd likes your commentary, but it takes character to call it what it is. Your character and opinion should not be subject to fluctuation based on who a person is or how much disposable income they may have (especially if it happens to dwarf your own). If they are, you don’t have character nor opinion that is worth having. Also, one can not expect justice for some; if this would be terrible on a young working mother’s older car, it’s still terrible on this person’s car (who’s wealth, by the way, is only assumed – it might not even be a personal car).

Not enough facts, too much opinion.

More than one side, People…
…more than one side.


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